Yes, I was sucked into the KonMari vortex this spring.
Anyone that knows about Marie Kondo’s book will be familiar with the process. If you are unfamiliar, google “konmari” and you will find a deluge of articles and blog posts explaining what it is.
It’s been a crazy 6 months, and I’m still stuck in “Komono” (miscellaneous items) and technically the “Paper” category as the 10 bags of shreds and recyclable paper crap was only the first wave in going paperless when you own your own business. My guest room has been converted to “Paper room” as I type this. (Marie Kondo would cutely shame me for not completing this before moving on to Komono!)
My favorite Marie Kondo video is from Fast Company where she helps their senior editor KonMari her cubicle with minimal shaming. (Marie Kondo, you are too cute!)
Some days I am super excited with the process as many of the spaces/categories I’ve “KonMari’d” have stayed tidy! (Marie Kondo, I can’t quit you…)
Except when that tidying high turns into rage. No more “thank you for your service” to the crap/items I am discarding, it’s more like, “AHHHH I HATE YOU, WHY ARE YOU STILL HERE!?!?!?!” as I pick up the same thing that has moved from room to room for months, and should’ve been tossed on the first go. (Marie Kondo would gently scold me that rage is not the answer in Japanese.)
How quickly the “tidy high” turned into the pit of (decluttering) sorrow.
To cope, I shame-search and come across articles like this from The Toast: How To Get Rid Of Clutter And Live Abundantly. It’s my new favorite article EVAR. Mallory Ortberg writes:
Have you ever owned anything? This is why you cannot forgive any of your former lovers. Things like “having chairs” is preventing you from living your best life, and also you should throw away any item of clothing you’re not currently wearing. If it’s not on your skin, you don’t really love it, do you?
Truth, Mallory…. TRUTH! (The article is the best sort of snark, btw… READ IT!)
I also enjoyed this Jezebel article, The Backlash Against KonMari and De-Cluttering Is Stupid.
In this article, the author, Tracy Moore writes:
You buy things for a reason, and if you took the time to figure out why you buy what you buy, and why you think you need it, and why you form such an attachment to it, even when it serves virtually no purpose and brings you no pleasure, you would quite possibly have a deeper understanding of yourself, your choices, and your existence that probably would affect the way you make choices—all manner of choices—going forward.
This is the main reason I am sticking through with finishing the process. (GAH!) Marie is changed me and honed my feelings on what does (and doesn’t) bring me joy.
“Does this sandwich spark joy?”
“Does this phone app spark joy?”
“Does this paint color on my walls spark joy?” … Oh no, this means I am probably going down the rabbit hole 7-year-itch to repaint after the initial remodel… (future posts to come teaser???)
Stay tuned for more of my KonMari adventures.